Bully word being said the most
popular today, particularly among pupils and students. Cases about bullying was
more intensively in good talking real world, as well as the virtual world may
even spread to other worlds. One case of bullying most frequently encountered or
even once we experienced was seniority, school or campus. who dared to sing in
front of the senior, they were like a king or queen that we should respect.
Not a few cases of bullying that
ended with the death of this case received more attention of people of Europe
are also powering the emergence of stop bullying , again the
people of Europe a step quicker in responding to cases of bullying when cases
are highest in Asia exactly the land of sakura, japan right behind Indonesia followed
by not much different distances.
Ironic is not it, our beloved
country, known by its Malay soft traits turned out hidden souls thugs, what
happened to the children of the motherland.? What we have the heart to let the
motherland cry because we are arrogant nature.?. therefore from now on let's
recognize what bullying is not uncommon anymore, but it still feels strange.
KNOW IT AND
KILL IT.
What's
Bullying.?
Bullying is derived from the word
bully, according to English-Indonesian dictionary Echols bouquet and Shadily
bully is defined as:
"Bully / 'bulie / kb. (j. -lies) bully, those who
disturb the weak, (bullied) bluff, disturbing.” While the Indonesian word bullying
we often describe as an oppression, bullying, bullying or ostracism (treats are
not polite).
This is
supported by the opinion Coloroso (2006: 44-45) who say that bullying means to
cause emotional pain or physical injury, involving actions that can hurt, and
the cause of pleasure in the heart of the actors while watching the suffering
of victims. Bullying is often carried out by the strong to the weak, tall to
short, beautiful to the ugly and vice versa. Many bullying cases occur among
students so often referred to as student violence.
There are
countless cases of bullying among students one of the most well-known and
famous is seniority, seniority form is found when the cadre for the students
and also when ospek school. Each student / student before entering the new
semester will be treated a little rude of example only senior snapped shouted,
mocked fun, or stared cynically realized or not it is included in case the
bully.
Another
example is the oppression of the weak, for example, just a bunch of students
popular in one of his gang were alienating the poorer, ugly, not fashionable in
a way not ignored or never talk to, call a friend with nicknames such as the
fat or dwarf , all of it is a case of bullying, the most severe cases of
bullying is when it involves physical violence such as hitting, kicking or
throwing a friend.
Bullying
occurs when allowed and will cause a long lasting negative impact on victims
such as depression, low self-esteem / self-conscious, Shy and reclusive,
Decline in academic achievement, Feeling socially isolated, occurred, or even
try to commit suicide. On the other hand if the bully estab left alone, they
will learn that there is no risk whatsoever for them when they commit violence,
or threaten another child. When the adult actors that have a greater potential
to be thugs or criminals and would bring problems in social interaction.
Bully often occur everywhere,
especially in schools. Moreover, when the orientation of students or that we
know called ospek. Whether it is a natural thing? I think they like it just
wants fame, in fear junior, and domineering! I think it's been really does not
make sense. Their actions VERY SHAME! Very embarrassing for someone who is a
"STUDENT" !!!
Many reasons they (the perpetrators bully) do so, including:
·
Want respected or feared junior
·
Want to be great by their junior
·
Want to show that they had the power in the school
·
Annoyed with their more junior famous of them
·
Their boyfriends there is a crush at the junior (pity)
·
Or retaliation because they used to be in such
treatment by their senior former.
In addition to the above, a lot of some things which are the
cause of bullying. Among others:
1. The
environment that is not conducive
Environment that is not conducive is one of the causes
of bullying happens because society will be very influential in the formation of
adolescent personal. Chaos and fights in solving problems that occur in the
community became something imitated by young people in solving their problems.
Similarly, these days a lot of broadcast media and electronic media that
displays various forms of violence. Which is more dangerous if bullying occurs
within the family environment adolescents. For example, teens who have broken
home has the potential for violence in the absence of the formation of moral
values and a lack of affection in the family's casing.
2. The
tradition continued
The existence of the "legacy" of families,
seniors and friends in the gang. Our personalities began to form during
adolescence, this is what makes us love "bandwagon" with the people
around us, if there is a friend who does violence to another friend, sometimes
we involve ourselves in the wrong way, not arbitrate / advising them instead
participate oppress them. When it gets bullying of seniors, so we are there
will be senior junior desire to oppress us with the exact reason is not
unreasonable "Because I was also treated as it used to be !!" and in
the end.
3. Parents who
are too cool
Due to busy parents with their work, they rarely spend
time with their children. The absence of communication between children and
parents would be fatal, we will not know the circumstances of each. Any busy
parent, keep their duty to instill moral values that exist, and instill a sense
of confidence to their children because by showing trust, the child will
naturally have a sense of responsibility towards the trust that has been given.
"Parents can play a key role in Preventing and
stopping bullying. But first they have to know if Reviews their children bully
or are bullied by others. Many parents do not discuss bullying with Reviews
their children, and many children do not raise the topic of bullying with
Reviews their parents. "
4. Envy
Dissatisfaction of what he already has also become one
of the driving factors for doing the bullying, when seeing other people more
than himself, he will perform in ways that could make it fall rival, and of
course in a way that was not supposed to. Bullying usually happens due to envy
is verbal bullying and indirect bullying
Victims of bullying why many do not report?
·
Victims are taught not to complain
·
Most of the victims learned from experience that not
all adults concerned about what they experienced
·
The victims are afraid to report mempeburuk
circumstances, because of the threat of actors
·
Victims feel inferior and ashamed
·
There is a feeling on the part of the victim that it
must be faced alone
·
Do not know Victims should ask for help to anyone
What Impact of Bullying?
1. One of the
effects of bullying most obvious is physical health.
2. Impaired
academic achievement or often deliberately not attending school.
3. The
emergence of a psychological disorder in victims of bullying, such as excessive
anxiety, always feel scared, depressed, suicidal, and symptoms of
post-traumatic stress disorder (post-traumatic stress disorder) and even
depression.
4. Difficulty
adjusting to the social environment
5. Damage to
the existing social values in the future.
Solution to
avoid bully...
Many people who are victims of bullies are weak, unpopular,
fat, skinny, ugly, stupid, but it can be overcome if we dare. Well courage to
fight with a bully their way in order to stop making fun of, even if given the
violence should never be afraid to report to the school, if we look more daring
then by itself the bullier be avoided because it did not have an impact on us
and the attitude did not make them happy. Remember .. a bullier so happy
bullying and will continue to bullying when she saw victims suffer so do not
ever allow ourselves to be silent when bullied, no matter how small it was
against. Speak up your mind. The story was to parents or friends when we got
the treatment bully so we will be stronger to deal with bullying and destroy
them !!!
Stop
Bullying !!!
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